Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Let’s Modify that Alimony Payment
If you’ve been faithfully paying your alimony payments for years, but you feel the squeeze now because of changing circumstances, you may very well be able to modify those payments! When is a Modification in Order? Circumstances change all the time, and sometimes they really do justify alterations in court-ordered maintenance. What if your… Read More »
Don’t Make This Mistake in Your Divorce
If you are heading for a divorce, it goes without saying that you and your spouse don’t see eye to eye. But parting ways means you’re also divvying up assets, time with the kids, bills, and more. Depending on how you two choose to handle things, it can either be a civil and fairly… Read More »
Child Order of Protection
Are you concerned about the welfare of your child, when spending time with a former spouse? In Missouri, laws are on the books to provide temporary protective custody for minor children in certain situations. It may be that the situation that is causing you angst could fit the bill. Emergency Custody To be clear,… Read More »
Help! I Want to Change the Custody Agreement I Have with my Ex!
When you first divorced, you and your spouse settled on a custody agreement and visitation plan. But things have changed, and the original agreement is giving you headaches now. It’s not just the parenting plan and visitation that is problematic; you are dissatisfied with the entire custody agreement. What options do you have moving… Read More »
Cyber Issues in Divorce
If you’re headed for a divorce, particularly if it looks to be a contentious one, you may wish to take some steps to ensure that your privacy is protected. Having an adversary looking through your private correspondence and browsing history, not to mention call logs and downloads, can endanger your prospects for a fair… Read More »
Help! Alimony Obligations Make Retirement Impossible!
If you are forking over a huge alimony payment every month and it’s causing you to question whether you can afford to retire, perhaps you should look into whether spousal maintenance modification is an option for you. Alimony in Missouri Spousal support is available to lesser earning spouses of either gender if they make… Read More »
Are You a Man Who Needs Out of a Marriage Because You’re Abused?
If you’re of the opinion that domestic violence (DV) occurs only against women, you are sadly mistaken. Men suffer as victims of DV almost as frequently as women do, and they often have additional issues to work out. Who can they tell without being viewed as a weakling? When facing the inherent biases in… Read More »
Making 50:50 Custody Work
If divorce is on the horizon and you are worried about your chances of having joint physical custody of your children, you should know that under Missouri law there is every possibility for both parents to be greatly involved with the children post-divorce. The days where mothers are automatically given total custody are long… Read More »
The Stages of Divorce
If you are headed for a divorce, or have recently experienced one, you may be unsure as to the impact of such a huge life change will have on you. Some researchers compare the stages of divorce with the stages of grief, and it’s clear to see why. Divorce is the end of life… Read More »
Co-Parenting Tips
Co-parenting with your ex requires communicating and cooperating. This benefits both you and your ex, and, more importantly, makes the children feel safe and loved. Even if you have residual negative feelings toward your ex, experts recommend that you do whatever it takes to make things work for the sake of the kids. Transitioning… Read More »
