Author Archives: Jay Butchko
When Big Divorce Decisions are Urgent
Divorce can be complicated. Sometimes they can drag on for months, or even years. That can make it difficult to start building a new life. To help individuals manage that time period during which divorce litigation is pending, the court can utilize what’s called pendente lite or pendente lis orders– temporary orders to deal… Read More »
The Past—and Potential Future—of No-Fault Divorce
It was 1969 when then-governor Ronald Reagan of California signed the first provisions for no-fault divorce into law. Previously, one partner was required to prove that the other was guilty of some sort of intolerable behavior that warranted—in the eyes of the state—a split. While every state had its own standards, they generally included… Read More »
Divorcing Over Politics
Remember the old adage—It’s impolite to discuss politics or religion in mixed company? Apparently, that’s true even if you’re married. It seems the passions associated with the topics—politics in particular for our purposes—can lead to some pretty hard feelings, and can even destabilize an otherwise good relationship and lead to divorce. In fact, divorcing… Read More »
Legal Separation in Missouri
If you really want to start a new life without your spouse but are prevented from getting a divorce due to religious, financial, or insurance reasons, there is another possibility short of divorce that you may want to consider: a legal separation. Exploring the Alternative For people who have unique reasons that they wish… Read More »
Adult Children’s Response to Their Parents’ Divorce
As more and more people over the age of 50 find themselves getting divorced, many are finding that relationships among adult children can get pretty complicated. What’s going on that makes gray divorce so complicated, and what can be done to mitigate the issues? Gray Divorce on the Rise In a single decade, the… Read More »
New Survey on Divorce
If you’ve been considering divorce, you’re not alone. Research indicates that about 25 percent of married individuals have thought about getting a divorce in the past six months, and roughly half of them had been mulling it over for a year or more. About a quarter of them said they’d be willing to work… Read More »
Divorce, Custody Issues, & Father’s Rights
In the middle of a divorce involving children, fathers often feel they are at a huge disadvantage. Men often believe that there’s not a judge on this planet who would ever limit a mother’s access to her children, and that restricting a father’s relationship with his children is much easier to swallow in the… Read More »
Divorce and the First Discussion
You want out. Your marriage brings you no pleasure, and you don’t even want to try to make it work. But you don’t want drama and nastiness either, despite the fact that this is undoubtedly no small matter. Initiating the divorce discussion is going to require some preparation, so you need to think about… Read More »
Making Sense of Your Divorce
Getting divorced can be quite painful, and the angst often lasts long after the final papers are signed. For some, making sense of a life that’s been turned upside down can be a frustrating quest. But it is possible, with a little time and soul-searching. Getting Support The first thing you need to do… Read More »
Should I Move Out Before My Divorce is Final?
Your divorce is not going well—the constant bickering is driving you crazy. It makes sense to just get out of the house now, avoid the constant nasty interactions, and have a little bit of peace. Or does it? Potential Problems Actually, it might be a good idea to discuss any thoughts of moving out… Read More »
